Climbing Mountains – A Personal Journey To The Heart Of Darkness (Using Brainwave Entrainment)

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Posted on October 4, 2012 by jasonkruk

Hi guys,

Meditating on top of the mountains (with the aid of meditation music) is pretty awesome – try it!

My book is finally out – and it’s available at your nearby Borders. It’s called Climbing Mountains, and it’s an account of my (spiritual) journey across the mountains of Kinabalu in East Malaysia. As many of you know, I have had personal problems and inner demons that I needed to defeat, and for that I have journeyed into far flung places such as the Kinabalu peaks in Southeast Asia. A rewarding trip, and it also made me realize about many aspects of my life that I have subconsciously kept hidden for many years of my life.

How Brainwave Entrainment Helped Me In My Meditation

As many of you also know I meditate a lot in order to get inner peace. The problem with a beginner like me is that it is quite difficult to attain what is known as the “alpha state” in meditation. I also practice yoga, and in some ways it helped me silent the mindless chatter which really affects my concentration. A friend of mine, Kenny Stevens, recommended that I start to look into this technology called brainwave entrainment (some more details can be found here) which many people are using to help them achieve alpha state rather easily.

At first I didn’t feel comfortable with the music, but after awhile I got really used to it and now I cannot meditate without it. When I go hiking, I like to “reward” myself when reaching the peak by doing a little yoga and meditation when I am at the top. Now what I usually do is I load up my mp3 player with brainwave entrainment tracks and then meditate in the serene surroundings in the bushes. It’s an awesome, awesome experience! I have also done astral projections when I am meditating (read here for the Wikipedia article if you are new to all this).

Climbing Mountains – Not A Self-Help Book

Brainwave entrainment also helped me write my book. I put some NeuroActivator.com tracks in the background and then start to let my creative juices flow. If you are a writer and you suffer from writers block then I recommend that you start investigating brainwave entrainment techniques in order to overcome your sticking points. It worked for me, and there’s no reason that it won’t work for you.

Go get the book! Then email me at jason@jasonkruk.net for some bonus content not found in the book. There are some audio tracks which you can listen to while you meditate, and also other goodies which will help you achieve peak performance. Meditating is difficult, but with some brainwave entrainment software (which generates binaural beats) you will be able to achieve alpha state rather quickly – in 50 minutes or even less. My best time is about 44 minutes. Some say that experts in meditation can get into alpha or theta states in ten seconds flat! Now that’s pure brain mastery if you ask me. To do that, you will need to get hold of state-of-the-art isochronic tones which you can use to aid your meditation. I will share more about this technique in my profile page – watch this space!

Stay frosty,

Jason E. Kruk

Jason’s Essentials: Relationship Pest Control

Posted on May 15, 2013 by jasonkruk

Hello my dear readers! I’ve thought of this “essentials” thing as another way to call what men should know while in a relationship with a woman. It’s not enough that we know how to win a girl’s heart. Equally important is to keep the relationship as smooth-sailing as possible. Read on…

There are some things in a relationship that tick women off. For the purpose of this discussion (and it actually feels good to say it), let’s call them ‘pests’. They don’t need any description or explanation but if you truly ask me what they are, relationship pests are people, habits, and things that can hurt the relationship. They can range from annoying to frustrating, and ultimately they are loathe-worthy. Since they are from the men’s side, yours, you alone can do something – anything! – about it. That is, if you want to salvage the relationship.

A lot of girls just suck it in and smile and keep their mouths shut. Others just cannot stay that way so take note of these ‘pests’ and see how your lady reacts to them. Oh, that and what you can possibly do to prevent these pests from ruining your relationship:

Your best guy pal may not be your girlfriend’s best friend. So you should draw lines.

1. The douchebag best friend – it pains girls to see your best friend not liking them. They will talk you out of resolving our argument, they will support your musings on a breakup, and they will probably discourage you further about them. It’s just one of two things: they hate the girls or they like ‘like’ you. I even know some guys who are actually rude to their best friend’s girlfriend! You seriously have to find the middle ground between both. I’m not telling you to break up with your best friend, just find a way to at least defend your ladylove from him. Most probably, your guy friend is single so he has time to judge your girl. Better tell him to read this awesome article on SonicSeduction.net on attracting women and get a life of his own.

Ex-girlfriends shouldn’t have space in your current relationship.

2. The b**** ex-girlfriend – exes do not have a place in your current relationship. If she keeps sending you messages or calling you for “nothing”, trust me, the b**** radar in your girlfriend’s brain is raising the alarm. Two things guys: (1) don’t keep it from your girlfriend if you’re not guilty of anything and (2) don’t tolerate it. Stop it at the first signs of it. A girl, especially your girl, can tell very well whether or not you’re over your ex. Just a heads up.

3. The ‘very friendly’ officemate – Women can forgive if she brings your whole office some freshly baked cookies. They can’t if she brings you in particular a box of cookies (that she baked herself), with a steaming cup of coffee with a smiley on the froth.

4. The overly-involved parents – I have nothing against parents. They are good and they are important. But you have a serious problem when they interfere with relationships. We could appreciate a sound advice but not a controlling parent who tells you what to do. It would make women feel like they’re dating a big baby! If your mom tells you she hates your girlfriend, ask her why and could you do every woman a favor and defend her? Oh and if she tells you how to run your relationship and you oblige, well, we’d gladly give way so you two could date. Unless you’re sixteen, your mom and dad have to learn to trust you to handle your own life.

A good girlfriend will not ask nor dare think of asking you to alienate your family and friends. But a good boyfriend knows where his relationship stands and how to protect it from anything that could ruin it.

You’d know that your girl is into you if she gets affected by these pests. If she’s not, then she won’t care at all. And you’d rather that she cares, right?

Signs That Say She’s Not Into You

Posted on May 10, 2013 by jasonkruk

Hello folks! I’ve been having a really nice time in Southeast Asia. I’ve met a lot of male and female friends and we get together mostly on weekends.

One of our topics recently was how to know if a girl is not into you. I have talked about love life in my previous blog posts like this one. But it’s always from a man’s perspective. It’s so uncommon for guys to talk about women not liking them, but it is a reality we should all face. Not every woman you date will like you.

More often than not, and more often than should be allowed, girls – no matter how talkative they are – do not speak up when they need to. They use body language to convey things they do not have the heart to say and be understood. Or, when they do speak, they speak in an ancient alien language – they say one thing to mean a thousand other things. And worse,they leave it all to men to decode it.

But men could sometimes be so naive and do not get the whole thing right 100% of the time. Quite frankly, men have a very low success rate when it comes to decoding women’s language. You either get to tap the surface and only the surface, get a detour and understand what you want to understand or totally go the opposite direction of understanding.

This becomes even more complicated in the arena of dating.

You see, men suffer from the tumultuous ups and downs of figuring out whether she likes you or not. I have a couple of female friends and I asked them how they let men know that they aren’t their type. Here are some signs that you should raise the white towel and know that she’s not into you:

1. She always comes up with reason for not going on dates. Work, friends, mom, dad, neighbor, dog, her oven, her laundry – she never seems to run out of ‘emergencies’. And she goes out with you 2 out of the 10 times you asked her.
2. She does not call or text you back when she misses your call. A girl who likes you will call or text you back for when she misses your call. She comes with a logical explanation and may even be sorry for it. If not, she’d just let her phone ring or ignore your 1000 missed calls for the past two hours.
3. She does not text you back. A girl who likes you and is interested in you will communicate with you regularly and will try to keep conversations alive. Women are very curious and would always love to know more about the guy they like. If they don’t like a guy, they will respond without engaging and in a non-committal way. ‘Yes’, ‘No’, ‘Haha’ and other famous one-liners are something that should raise the red flag on you.
4. She is distracted on dates. If she looks somewhere else and does not look you in the eye on a date, and she does it frequently, she may not be interested in you. If a girl likes a man, she would give him her attention and will be present – body and soul – in the date.

The thing about women is that they always assume your minds work the same way theirs do. They believe that you over analyze their every action that same way they think over your every twitch and action. And so they seem to you like a big puzzle.

If you’re dating a girl, look into these red flags and this list might just save your butt the hassle of going out further with a woman who is obviously not into you. But if you really like her and are not willing to give up just yet, there are new and more effective techniques out there on how to win a girls heart that you should try.

Some men are just plain persistent or can’t handle rejection, so even if we think that the women are not into them, they find ways on how to reverse it. If you are this kind of guy, I suggest you read my friend Paula’s tips on how to have a meaningful date here.

-Jason

Melaka – A Meditation Destination

Posted on February 21, 2013 by jasonkruk

Went to Melaka over the weekend to visit the Center For Meditation (Pusat Meditasi Melaka), a place for meditation and yoga enthusiasts to convene and discuss ideas about meditation. To my surprise, many Malaysian yoga fans also use brainwave entrainment programs to aid their yoga and meditation experience (I first stumbled upon brainwave synchronization programs via NeuroActivator.com website – outlined here in this previous article).

Melaka is beautiful, and is really conducive for meditation and reflective experiences. Loading up my ipod with NeuroActivator binaural beats and songs consisting of isochronic tones, I went around town (Jonker Street) and had a really bizarre experience. I thought I was seeing things…

The beach was awesome as well. Here’s a capture of the Malacca Straits courtesy of Sailor John -

malacca-straits

How to Have a Meaningful First Date

Posted on December 16, 2012 by jasonkruk

Alright, I am now in Kuala Lumpur, and I have already met some really awesome people! Paula is a fellow traveler, and she has agreed to contribute her thoughts on dating in this short blog article.

Did somebody just ask you for a date and it’s your first time? Or have you asked somebody to have a date for the first time? Surely, that would be something that you have to prepare for. First dates are always memorable for everyone. However, not all first dates are meaningful and remarkable. Some first dates can be a bit frustrating or traumatic especially if it is not a well-prepared one except in rare cases with amazingly spontaneous people. If you are a kind of person who is a bit unfortunate with first time experiences and is anxious about your first date, you have come at the right place.

paula My name is Paula, and I hail from Minnesota. I am writing this article for Jason’s blog, and if you have questions, please do email me: paula.hans@hotmail.com

How to Have a Meaningful First Date

The first thing that you might think of before you will have your first date is your outfit. The way you dress can be an important factor in dating. Never base your outfit on the preferences of your partner. It might just make you a little more conscious about yourself and your partner can sense that. Instead, make sure it fits your personality and it gives you a positive attitude. That way you can be more confident with yourself because you won’t get any more conscious with how you look while you will be dating with that special someone. If you need to sharpen your flirting skills, then click here for more tips and techniques on how to flirt with a girl and make her like you.

Secondly, deciding what perfume to put on can be difficult especially because it is your first time to date that person. How would you ever know if he or she likes your smell? Well here’s a good tip for every first timer. Use vanilla scent perfume. That kind of scent is actually the safest to put on. Its smell is associated with romance and serenity. Go try it and see its effects and overall impact.

Finally, your scheduled date has come. You might probably be thinking of things that should and should not happen. It’s normal for first time dating. But remind yourself to never expect anything. Your expectations may just ruin everything. By expecting something, you will tend to become rigid and you will most likely fail to go with the flow. Instead, be flexible and open-minded. Those unknown things that may happen make the date a lot more exciting. This has been covered by Jason earlier in another blog post.

For example, if you are dating in a restaurant with a romantic music and plenty of food to eat, never skip the opportunity to dance with your partner. If you are the guy, then ask the girl for a dance. If you are the girl, never decline a guy asking you to dance with him. Or you can both sing together with the band if singing is not a problem for you. This is what it means with going with the flow.

If you think that your partner is not having fun, it’s normal to feel pressured but don’t push it. Never put pressure on yourself or on your partner. The important thing with a first date is knowing the person better – knowing things that you have not expected from your dating partner. This makes the first date even more meaningful than you thought it could be.

Hope you enjoyed this article!

Luv,

Paula

Quick Blurb About My Move To Southeast Asia

Posted on December 12, 2012 by jasonkruk

A quick update on my move to Malaysia and Thailand. Despite some snags on getting a place to stay in those countries (read this), things are going great. I am engaging Asian Tigers to do the moving for me, and they are the best.

If you are in those countries and want to get in touch, just email me – jason@jasonkruk.net. Let’s go for a drink!

Some Blog Updates – This Time Concerning My Love Life

Posted on November 18, 2012 by jasonkruk

OK, some personal updates. I’m now packing up to move to Southeast Asia, and this might be my final article for about two months. (Details about my impending move here)

My previous articles on dating and relationships have been really well received, and I thought I will post another article now on the same topic.

If you want to have a long-term relationship, it is very important that you start things off on the right foot. Most women fall in love with a man on the first or second date. If she hasn’t fallen in love with you by the second date, chances are that she’ll break up with you. Many guys are scared that girls won’t like who they are, so they go out of their way to please the girl. In reality, a girl would just like to see the real you. So, what are some sonic seduction techniques that make her love you instantly?

One of the best ways to get a girl to love you instantly is by being a great listener. If you are on your first date with a girl, let her do most of the talking. Girls have a lot to say and it will make her feel good being able to get it all out. She will think that you are thoughtful and reserved. She will think that you are very interested in her life and she’ll be able to see long term potential with you. Even though you might think that you’re being boring, she will love having most of the talking time. While she is talking, be calm – and if you need practice in this try my meditation tips.

Another way to get a girl to love you instantly is by complimenting her. Girls love to be complimented because it makes them feel special. When you pick her up, make sure that you compliment her outfit and her hair. If she has talked about her exercises, say that she looks even better than she did before. It is important to remember when giving compliments to always say that they looked beautiful and now they look even better. This can be applied to a wide array of compliments, such as compliments on the outfit, hair, makeup, or the body. If you want some advice on how to compliment a girl, read this article.

A final way to make her love you is by smiling a lot. Girls love it when you smile a lot because it makes them feel comfortable. Even though a lot of guys don’t like to smile, it really helps a girl love you even more than she already does.

In the end, a girl loves it “all the small things”. Do you open the door for her? Do you laugh at all her jokes? Do you always answer her calls and texts? Getting a girl to love you instantly isn’t that hard, but you have to remember that a girl’s mind works differently than a guy’s mind. Girls look at the small picture. This is different than guys, who look at the big picture. Remember to always be courteous and in tune to how she is feeling. A girl will love you instantly if she knows that she can tell you all her problems. Since you now know how to make her love you instantly, you should be able to have a wonderful relationship with your girlfriend. As long as you remember to think about her feelings, the relationship will succeed. Now if you don’t have a girlfriend yet, then learning how to find a girlfriend should be the first logical step for you.

All right, that’s really all for now. Talk soon, and if you are in Singapore or Thailand email me if you want to meet up.

Love,

Jason K.

Jason’s Guide To Buying Property From A Developer (Part 1)

Posted on November 8, 2012 by jasonkruk

Following my previous blog post about moving to Southeast Asia and acquiring a piece of real estate (read this if you have missed it), I have decided to BUY a property in Kuala Lumpur instead of renting. I have indeed purchased a condo in the KLCC enclave – courtesy of a listing I found at http://propertyforsale.com.my . I can’t wait to move there.

My friend Richard Lee has asked if it’s advisable to directly purchase property from a developer instead of going into the sub-sale market. I took some time to research and sent him this article I wrote – thought I’ll share it here for the benefit of all.

How to buy property from a developer

There are a lot of people that love brand new houses. After all, brand new houses have a lot of benefits that a used home just can’t provide. If you love custom items, then building a brand new house is for you. You will be able to customize every aspect of the house. And most importantly, you’ll be the first family to live in the house. This means you don’t have to worry about how dirty the people before you were or what happened in the house. In order to buy a new house, you will need to buy it from a developer. Buying a property from a developer isn’t as easy you might think. If you aren’t careful, you can get ripped off by the developer. The following paragraphs will help you learn how to buy a property from a developer.

The first step to buying a property from a developer is finding a reliable developer. Finding a good developer is the most important part of the process. Finding a good developer will make the rest of the process a lot easier. You won’t have to worry about faulty foundations or poorly constructed rooms. One of the best ways to find a reliable developer is to visit past developments that are now complete. Go door to door and ask the owners of the house how satisfied they were with the whole process. This is the process I undertook when I bought my KLCC condo. To make asking questions easier, consider having a survey prepared. This way, you’ll be able to remember all of your questions.

Once you have selected a developer, you will need to select a model. Most developers offer many models to choose from, so make sure that the one you end up choosing is the one that fits your lifestyle the best. At this point, you’ll be able to select any custom features that you would like your house to have. Make sure that you are getting charged a fair price for any add-ons that you choose. A lot of developers offer low base prices but charge a lot for add-ons to make up for the difference. Remember that it’s debatable if home improvements increase house value.

If you have any special requirements – such as the need for a room for meditation – remember to factor that in as well.

After you have selected all of your add-ons, it is time to negotiate. You and your real estate agent will need to look at past houses that the developer has sold in order to get an idea of how much the house should cost you. If the developer hasn’t sold a house in a while, he or she will be more willing to adjust the price. However, if there is only one plot left in the neighborhood, you will most likely have to forfeit your negotiating power.

After you have negotiated the final price and have the offer in writing, the developer will start building your property. The more involved you are in the process, the happier you will be with the end result. Many developers will cut corners if they think that you won’t notice, so constantly checking on the project can help eliminate this from happening.

In the next installment of this blog series on property buying, I will outline some pitfalls that you should avoid. Stay put!

Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Here I Come! (And Some Reflections On Real Estate)

Posted on October 16, 2012 by jasonkruk

So I have decided to make another pilgrimage to Southeast Asia again. The last time I went there was in 1999. It is high time that I go again, but this time I am going there for at least a year. So you can say that I am temporarily moving there.

The first thing that I needed to sort out is my accommodation. Real estate has always been tricky when it comes to this part of the world. I used to own a condominium unit in downtown Singapore (near Clarke Quay) until I sold it at a loss during the major Asian financial meltdown. Didn’t have the stomach to pursue any real estate investments in this part of the world for many, many years.

I have thus been looking for a short-let stay in Malaysia, preferably in the Kuala Lumpur City Centre (KLCC) area. I have dreamed of hiking that building (once tallest in the world) for some time now, but that remains a pipe dream. The last time Alain Robert attempted to climb it he got arrested (read the news article here). My preference is a condominium unit overlooking KLCC so that I can look at it the first thing in the morning and start dreaming…

Since I am so far removed from Malaysia, the only way I can research for Malaysian properties is to go online. There are some really good property portals which have got lots of information when it comes to real estate listings for rent and for sale. This Malaysia real estate website is something like Trulia.com, except that it’s a little more amateurish and rougher on the edges. I would have preferred Yahoo’s real estate portal (http://homes.yahoo.com) but there’s almost zero listings for Malaysia. What gives?

Contacting A Local (Malaysian) Realtor

My friend Sarah advised me to get in touch with a local real estate agent which really makes lots of sense. Again I went online and went through a list of really slimy looking property agents before I settled on this bloke with an exotic name (“Silvapakiam Richardo Fugukawa”). Not sure if that’s a typical Malaysian name but I managed to talk to him on Skype and he seemed legit. He then sent me a list of properties around the KLCC which I really liked, but were out of my budget.

My initial plan was to get a romantic place (with a good view of the Petronas Towers) so that when I propose to my girlfriend Charlotte I could win her over effortlessly. With limited funds, all I can afford is a mid-range flat outside Kuala Lumpur which is hardly classy by any means.

After Malaysia, I will be going up north to Thailand on a meditation retreat. This is where I can use my brainwave entrainment programs and get some quality meditation sessions under guru Sidhartan in Chiangmai. I have emailed him a few times and we have decided on some one-to-one meditation using meditation music comprising of isochronic tones and the like.

Can’t wait!

How To Win A Girl’s Heart – Jason K’s Dating Tactics That Can Win Any Girl Over

Posted on October 13, 2012 by jasonkruk

Hey guys, Jason here again with another blog post. Today I am going to relate to you some personal experience regarding dating and attracting women.

There are many men that are looking for a serious relationship. A lot of men are wonderful at carrying on casual relationships, but taking it to the next level can be a challenge. If you have just gotten out of a relationship, the only thing you can do is learn from the experience. This way, you will be able to have a better relationship with the next girl that comes along. In order to take your relationship to the next level, you need to know how to win a girl’s heart. Girls are usually thought of as very hard to read. However, there are a few simple steps you can take to win a girl’s heart every time. The following paragraphs will explain the steps in detail so that you’ll have success in your next relationship.

How To Win A Girl’s Heart – Jason Kruk’s Method!

In order to win a girl’s heart, you need to be truthful. In order for a girl to fall in love with you, you need to build a solid foundation of trust. (I have talked about this at length in my previous blog post). Both of you need to build this foundation and each of you need to hold up your end of the bargain. When you first start dating, it is important to set ground rules. Once these ground rules have set, you need to make sure that you never break them. Every time that your partner catches you in a lie, it lowers your credibility and worthiness. You need to always be truthful if you want to win a girl’s heart over and know how to get a girl to like you.

Also, recognition is vital if you want to win a girl’s heart. Women loved to be acknowledged. Many women are frustrated at their partners because they simply do not communicate their appreciation and love. Even if you know in your mind that you love your girlfriend, you need to make sure that you tell her. Many women enjoy being told daily, even though this might seem redundant. Always make sure that you remember her birthday and special holidays like Valentine’s Day. Even though holidays probably don’t mean much to you, they are very significant to her. Being smooth with women is also a huge part of my personality.

Communication Is The Key To Successful Relationships

Lastly, you need to communicate with your girlfriend. Women are very focused on communicating well and if you don’t give it your all, it can cause a break up. If you are going to be home late, make sure to call or text. If you are stuck in traffic, let her know. The small things that you don’t think about are things that she thinks about. Women worry easily and you need to let her know that everything is going well. Good communication with your partner can really pay off over time. Your girlfriend will appreciate your attention to detail and your communication skills.

Now that you know how to win a girl’s heart, you should be able to have a more substantial relationship next time. If you are having trouble maintaining relationships, always try to look at it from a different perspective. Always remember that what makes sense to you might not make sense to your partner.