Climbing Mountains – A Personal Journey To The Heart Of Darkness (Using Brainwave Entrainment)

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Hi guys,

Meditating on top of the mountains (with the aid of meditation music) is pretty awesome – try it!

My book is finally out – and it’s available at your nearby Borders. It’s called Climbing Mountains, and it’s an account of my (spiritual) journey across the mountains of Kinabalu in East Malaysia. As many of you know, I have had personal problems and inner demons that I needed to defeat, and for that I have journeyed into far flung places such as the Kinabalu peaks in Southeast Asia. A rewarding trip, and it also made me realize about many aspects of my life that I have subconsciously kept hidden for many years of my life.

How Brainwave Entrainment Helped Me In My Meditation

As many of you also know I meditate a lot in order to get inner peace. The problem with a beginner like me is that it is quite difficult to attain what is known as the “alpha state” in meditation. I also practice yoga, and in some ways it helped me silent the mindless chatter which really affects my concentration. A friend of mine, Kenny Stevens, recommended that I start to look into this technology called brainwave entrainment (some more details can be found here) which many people are using to help them achieve alpha state rather easily.

At first I didn’t feel comfortable with the music, but after awhile I got really used to it and now I cannot meditate without it. When I go hiking, I like to “reward” myself when reaching the peak by doing a little yoga and meditation when I am at the top. Now what I usually do is I load up my mp3 player with brainwave entrainment tracks and then meditate in the serene surroundings in the bushes. It’s an awesome, awesome experience! I have also done astral projections when I am meditating (read here for the Wikipedia article if you are new to all this).

Climbing Mountains – Not A Self-Help Book

Brainwave entrainment also helped me write my book. I put some NeuroActivator.com tracks in the background and then start to let my creative juices flow. If you are a writer and you suffer from writers block then I recommend that you start investigating brainwave entrainment techniques in order to overcome your sticking points. It worked for me, and there’s no reason that it won’t work for you.

Go get the book! Then email me at jason@jasonkruk.net for some bonus content not found in the book. There are some audio tracks which you can listen to while you meditate, and also other goodies which will help you achieve peak performance. Meditating is difficult, but with some brainwave entrainment software (which generates binaural beats) you will be able to achieve alpha state rather quickly – in 50 minutes or even less. My best time is about 44 minutes. Some say that experts in meditation can get into alpha or theta states in ten seconds flat! Now that’s pure brain mastery if you ask me. To do that, you will need to get hold of state-of-the-art isochronic tones which you can use to aid your meditation. I will share more about this technique in my profile page – watch this space!

Stay frosty,

Jason E. Kruk

How to Find Your Signature Scent

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There is hardly any woman that can resist a great smelling guy. And for many women, how a person smelled like is sometimes easier to remember than how they looked. That’s why you should invest time and money in finding the right scent for you – that one scent that will remind people of you or win a girl’s heart at even the faintest whiff of it.

The Right Scent for You

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Every man should invest time and money in finding the right scent for you.

When out looking for your “signature” scent, there are so many things that you’d want to consider. You can’t just go out and buy the first one that suits your nose’s fancy! There’s actually more to perfumes and colognes than just meets your nose. Here are some factors you might want to consider when looking for your perfect scent:

  • Your lifestyle. Are you a smoker or a health buff running miles and miles every day on the treadmill? Do you drink? Do you spend more time indoors or outdoors? The kinds of activities you get into as well as the food you love to eat all contribute to your natural body odor. Therefore these things will likely affect how well or how badly a type of cologne or perfume will suit you.
  • Your skin and body type. If you’re a naturally sweaty person, you may need something more than cologne that will stick to your body longer, like say – body musk or an aerosol type body scent. If you have a dryer, textured skin, you may need something else for it too, like an oil-based scent. But more importantly, you must consider how well your skin and body react to some scents – if you feel and extreme stinging sensation, itching, or difficulty in breathing over one type of perfume, then by all means ditch that perfume and go for a mild, non-alcohol based, hypoallergenic ones.
  • Personal preference. Sure you are not allergic to it, and sure it suits the kind of fast-paced lifestyle you live but do you like it? If the scent fits the bill on everything else but this, move on to the next one. It’s no use buying something that you would hate using anyway. It’s like getting a girlfriend for the sake of getting a female companion and not enjoying her company anyway.

Shopping Guidelines

Not sure how to shop for scents? These guidelines might help you:

  • Don’t do it in a single day. Unless you want to go home with numb sinuses, you’d want to keep a limit of at least 3 to 5 scent tests per go. Overdoing it would have you losing your ability to distinguish one scent from another.
  • Ask for scented cards/sheets for better comparison. You can’t try out all the scents on your body for crying out loud! The sheets are there for a reason you know.

When you’ve found your final choice, try it on and see how comfortable you are with it. A great scent, coupled with SIBG.com guide on flirting, will surely take you to places!

Dating Ideas for the Jobless Man

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The unemployment rate is still less than favorable and the economy is not back on the fast track.  Unfortunately, you’re one of those who got hit by the unemployment axe. Sure a lot of other men around you are losing their jobs too and are finding it hard to get back into employment, but that does not make it any easier does it?

And as if things are not already bad as they are, the dating world is becoming as elusive as employment for you. That’s because a great deal of women u date men who are unemployed! And seriously, you could not blame them. You’ve lost a great deal of your own self respect over your unemployment, you can’t possibly hold it against them if they get turned off at the fact that you’re jobless and possibly living off of your parents’ basement or back in your old high school bedroom. Or that you could probably not take them anywhere fancier than the local 24-hour diner that serves soggy fries.

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Most men, ego hurt and all, tend to be too defensive about their unemployment situation. They are so defensive that they end up sounding like total douchebags.

But what choices does an unemployed man have when it comes to the love scene? What chances does a single, unemployed man have at finding a woman who would date him in spite of? How do you still keep your dating life exciting when you’re struggling with your finances and job security? Here are some possibly helpful dating tips for the jobless man:

  • Be honest. SO your best bud set you up on a date with this fabulous girl and then right in the middle of dinner, she asks you ‘so what do you do’? Your ego says ‘save me’ and you immediately rack up make believe stories about your overseas job, work-at-home thing and you’re only staying with your parents because you are looking to buy the house from them eventually out of sentimental value and love for the neighborhood. But lying will only make you look worse. Don’t worry, you can still have a great first date despite the fact that you’re in between jobs. And if you’re as good in lying as an ostrich is in flying, you’re putting yourself in a very humiliating situation. Tell her things as they are. She will appreciate you more for it.
  • Don’t be cocky about it. Most men, ego hurt and all, tend to be too defensive about their unemployment situation. They are so defensive that they end up sounding like total douchebags. If and when she does ask about your employment status, don’t try to be too cool about it (makes you sound like a bum) but don’t sound like you’re trying to get her sympathy. Don’t linger in the topic.
  • Be a man with a plan. Women don’t always need to see what you have achieved or what you are trying to achieve; more often than not, we girls are more into seeing that you are actually trying. And don’t just have a plan. Look for a job, dude and let her know. Read this article when waiting for the bus to your interview. It will help big time. If your unemployment becomes the topic of your conversation, you’ll find your confidence brimming (without being arrogant) at the thought that you could tell her how you’re planning to combat your current situation, what you’re actually doing to get out of the situation and that you have no plans of staying in the pile of crap you’re currently in. If she likes you, she’ll admire you for having a plan.

Unemployment is something that strikes people everywhere, every day. It should not, however, be the end of the world for you. Neither should it be the end of your dating life. If it’s any consolation, there are more unemployed female than male.

Signs She’s Breaking Up With You

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You thought you had a perfect relationship. You were perfectly happy and content with her. She was all you ever wanted, all you ever needed, all you’ve ever dreamed of having. And you thought she was just as happy as you. And then she suddenly walked out on you, catching you by utter surprise.

And then you ask yourself, over a bottle of Jack Daniel’s, what went wrong. What did you miss? You thought she was just as happy when the whole time she was just thinking about the best way to break up with you.

What did you miss?

The answer? Probably a lot. For some reason, women have this strange difficulty of finding the right ways to say things. It’s as difficult as finding out whether or not she’s into you. Women depend on their intuition to understand what men are not saying, and we, in turn, are hoping that you are going to understand the things that we don’t say as well. But you know what, things could get pretty easier for guys if you only get dating and seduction advice from SIBG.com.

Because we forget men have weaker instincts and comprehension for the non-verbal cues. Does male intuition even exist? Sounds more like an oxymoron.

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A girl who loves you will always be interested about how your day was or how you feel.

Here are the signs that you’ve probably missed – signs that she wants to break up with you:

  • She’s constantly distracted. Women are normally distracted but when you guys are alone, and you can’t keep her attention every single time you’re together, you most likely have lost her heart too.
  • She can’t look at you in the eye. When you talk, her eyes are wandering. Even when she says she loves you back, she says it without looking into your eyes.
  • She finds it hard to be intimate with you. She finds less interest in having sex with you, and when she does have sex with you, she wants to get it over and done with ASAP. Her kisses are not as passionate; she may not even kiss you back.
  • She keeps secrets from you. When she does not tell you big things that are happening in her life, when she does not tell you how her day went, or she’s not as engaged in answering yous ‘how are you questions’, she does not see it a necessity to tell you about her life’s happenings.
  • She goes out without you more frequently. Girls are naturally clingy, some women are just not practitioners while others are exaggeratedly clingy. But when you find her getting more and more interested in watching movies alone, going shopping alone, or going out for coffee without you, then you must take this as a red flag. Or even when she is at home with you, she hardly stays in the same room as you and likes being left alone.
  • She talks about other men. This is a telltale sign. Women normally talk about other people in general, and even other men. But when she does this too frequently, it means these things and people are more interesting than you.
  • She hardly asks you how you are. A girl who loves you will always be interested about how your day was or how you feel; when she stops doing this, her interest in you is totally gone.

It is important for men to spot these signs and address them soon to either save the relationship or just so they don’t get a very bad surprise.

Jason’s Essentials: Relationship Pest Control

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Hello my dear readers! I’ve thought of this “essentials” thing as another way to call what men should know while in a relationship with a woman. It’s not enough that we know how to win a girl’s heart. Equally important is to keep the relationship as smooth-sailing as possible. Read on…

 

There are some things in a relationship that tick women off. For the purpose of this discussion (and it actually feels good to say it), let’s call them ‘pests’. They don’t need any description or explanation but if you truly ask me what they are, relationship pests are people, habits, and things that can hurt the relationship. They can range from annoying to frustrating, and ultimately they are loathe-worthy. Since they are from the men’s side, yours, you alone can do something – anything! – about it. That is, if you want to salvage the relationship.

A lot of girls just suck it in and smile and keep their mouths shut. Others just cannot stay that way so take note of these ‘pests’ and see how your lady reacts to them. Oh, that and what you can possibly do to prevent these pests from ruining your relationship:

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Your best guy pal may not be your girlfriend’s best friend. So you should draw lines.

1. The douchebag best friend – it pains girls to see your best friend not liking them. They will talk you out of resolving our argument, they will support your musings on a breakup, and they will probably discourage you further about them. It’s just one of two things: they hate the girls or they like ‘like’ you. I even know some guys who are actually rude to their best friend’s girlfriend! You seriously have to find the middle ground between both. I’m not telling you to break up with your best friend, just find a way to at least defend your ladylove from him. Most probably, your guy friend is single so he has time to judge your girl. Better tell him to read this awesome article on SonicSeduction.net on attracting women and get a life of his own.

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Ex-girlfriends shouldn’t have space in your current relationship.

2. The b**** ex-girlfriend – exes do not have a place in your current relationship. If she keeps sending you messages or calling you for “nothing”, trust me, the b**** radar in your girlfriend’s brain is raising the alarm. Two things guys: (1) don’t keep it from your girlfriend if you’re not guilty of anything and (2) don’t tolerate it. Stop it at the first signs of it. A girl, especially your girl, can tell very well whether or not you’re over your ex. Just a heads up.

3. The ‘very friendly’ officemate – Women can forgive if she brings your whole office some freshly baked cookies. They can’t if she brings you in particular a box of cookies (that she baked herself), with a steaming cup of coffee with a smiley on the froth.

4. The overly-involved parents – I have nothing against parents. They are good and they are important. But you have a serious problem when they interfere with relationships. We could appreciate a sound advice but not a controlling parent who tells you what to do. It would make women feel like they’re dating a big baby! If your mom tells you she hates your girlfriend, ask her why and could you do every woman a favor and defend her? Oh and if she tells you how to run your relationship and you oblige, well, we’d gladly give way so you two could date. Unless you’re sixteen, your mom and dad have to learn to trust you to handle your own life.

A good girlfriend will not ask nor dare think of asking you to alienate your family and friends. But a good boyfriend knows where his relationship stands and how to protect it from anything that could ruin it.

You’d know that your girl is into you if she gets affected by these pests. If she’s not, then she won’t care at all. And you’d rather that she cares, right?

Signs That Say She’s Not Into You

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Hello folks! I’ve been having a really nice time in Southeast Asia. I’ve met a lot of male and female friends and we get together mostly on weekends.

One of our topics recently was how to know if a girl is not into you. I have talked about love life in my previous blog posts like this one. But it’s always from a man’s perspective. It’s so uncommon for guys to talk about women not liking them, but it is a reality we should all face. Not every woman you date will like you.

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More often than not, and more often than should be allowed, girls – no matter how talkative they are – do not speak up when they need to. They use body language to convey things they do not have the heart to say and be understood. Or, when they do speak, they speak in an ancient alien language – they say one thing to mean a thousand other things. And worse,they leave it all to men to decode it.

But men could sometimes be so naive and do not get the whole thing right 100% of the time. Quite frankly, men have a very low success rate when it comes to decoding women’s language. You either get to tap the surface and only the surface, get a detour and understand what you want to understand or totally go the opposite direction of understanding.

This becomes even more complicated in the arena of dating.

You see, men suffer from the tumultuous ups and downs of figuring out whether she likes you or not. I have a couple of female friends and I asked them how they let men know that they aren’t their type. Here are some signs that you should raise the white towel and know that she’s not into you:

1. She always comes up with reason for not going on dates. Work, friends, mom, dad, neighbor, dog, her oven, her laundry – she never seems to run out of ‘emergencies’. And she goes out with you 2 out of the 10 times you asked her.
2. She does not call or text you back when she misses your call. A girl who likes you will call or text you back for when she misses your call. She comes with a logical explanation and may even be sorry for it. If not, she’d just let her phone ring or ignore your 1000 missed calls for the past two hours.
3. She does not text you back. A girl who likes you and is interested in you will communicate with you regularly and will try to keep conversations alive. Women are very curious and would always love to know more about the guy they like. If they don’t like a guy, they will respond without engaging and in a non-committal way.  ‘Yes’, ‘No’, ‘Haha’ and other famous one-liners are something that should raise the red flag on you.
4. She is distracted on dates. If she looks somewhere else and does not look you in the eye on a date, and she does it frequently, she may not be interested in you. If a girl likes a man, she would give him her attention and will be present – body and soul – in the date.

The thing about women is that they always assume your minds work the same way theirs do. They believe that you over analyze their every action that same way they think over your every twitch and action. And so they seem to you like a big puzzle.

If you’re dating a girl, look into these red flags and this list might just save your butt the hassle of going out further with a woman who is obviously not into you. But if you really like her and are not willing to give up just yet, there are new and more effective techniques out there on how to win a girls heart that you should try.

Some men are just plain persistent or can’t handle rejection, so even if we think that the women are not into them, they find ways on how to reverse it. If you are this kind of guy, I suggest you read my friend Paula’s tips on how to have a meaningful date here.

-Jason

Melaka – A Meditation Destination

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Went to Melaka over the weekend to visit the Center For Meditation (Pusat Meditasi Melaka), a place for meditation and yoga enthusiasts to convene and discuss ideas about meditation. To my surprise, many Malaysian yoga fans also use brainwave entrainment programs to aid their yoga and meditation experience (I first stumbled upon brainwave synchronization programs via NeuroActivator.com website – outlined here in this previous article).

Melaka is beautiful, and is really conducive for meditation and reflective experiences. Loading up my ipod with NeuroActivator binaural beats and songs consisting of isochronic tones, I went around town (Jonker Street) and had a really bizarre experience. I thought I was seeing things…

The beach was awesome as well. Here’s a capture of the Malacca Straits courtesy of Sailor John -

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How to Have a Meaningful First Date

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Alright, I am now in Kuala Lumpur, and I have already met some really awesome people! Paula is a fellow traveler, and she has agreed to contribute her thoughts on dating in this short blog article.

Did somebody just ask you for a date and it’s your first time? Or have you asked somebody to have a date for the first time? Surely, that would be something that you have to prepare for. First dates are always memorable for everyone. However, not all first dates are meaningful and remarkable. Some first dates can be a bit frustrating or traumatic especially if it is not a well-prepared one except in rare cases with amazingly spontaneous people. If you are a kind of person who is a bit unfortunate with first time experiences and is anxious about your first date, you have come at the right place.

paulaMy name is Paula, and I hail from Minnesota. I am writing this article for Jason’s blog, and if you have questions, please do email me: paula.hans@hotmail.com

How to Have a Meaningful First Date

The first thing that you might think of before you will have your first date is your outfit. The way you dress can be an important factor in dating. Never base your outfit on the preferences of your partner. It might just make you a little more conscious about yourself and your partner can sense that. Instead, make sure it fits your personality and it gives you a positive attitude. That way you can be more confident with yourself because you won’t get any more conscious with how you look while you will be dating with that special someone. If you need to sharpen your flirting skills, then click here for more tips and techniques on how to flirt with a girl and make her like you.

Secondly, deciding what perfume to put on can be difficult especially because it is your first time to date that person. How would you ever know if he or she likes your smell? Well here’s a good tip for every first timer. Use vanilla scent perfume. That kind of scent is actually the safest to put on. Its smell is associated with romance and serenity. Go try it and see its effects and overall impact.

Finally, your scheduled date has come. You might probably be thinking of things that should and should not happen. It’s normal for first time dating. But remind yourself to never expect anything. Your expectations may just ruin everything. By expecting something, you will tend to become rigid and you will most likely fail to go with the flow. Instead, be flexible and open-minded. Those unknown things that may happen make the date a lot more exciting. This has been covered by Jason earlier in another blog post.

For example, if you are dating in a restaurant with a romantic music and plenty of food to eat, never skip the opportunity to dance with your partner. If you are the guy, then ask the girl for a dance. If you are the girl, never decline a guy asking you to dance with him. Or you can both sing together with the band if singing is not a problem for you. This is what it means with going with the flow.

If you think that your partner is not having fun, it’s normal to feel pressured but don’t push it. Never put pressure on yourself or on your partner. The important thing with a first date is knowing the person better – knowing things that you have not expected from your dating partner. This makes the first date even more meaningful than you thought it could be.

Hope you enjoyed this article!

Luv,

Paula

Some Blog Updates – This Time Concerning My Love Life

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OK, some personal updates. I’m now packing up to move to Southeast Asia, and this might be my final article for about two months. (Details about my impending move here)

My previous articles on dating and relationships have been really well received, and I thought I will post another article now on the same topic.

If you want to have a long-term relationship, it is very important that you start things off on the right foot. Most women fall in love with a man on the first or second date. If she hasn’t fallen in love with you by the second date, chances are that she’ll break up with you. Many guys are scared that girls won’t like who they are, so they go out of their way to please the girl. In reality, a girl would just like to see the real you. So, what are some sonic seduction techniques that make her love you instantly?

One of the best ways to get a girl to love you instantly is by being a great listener. If you are on your first date with a girl, let her do most of the talking. Girls have a lot to say and it will make her feel good being able to get it all out. She will think that you are thoughtful and reserved. She will think that you are very interested in her life and she’ll be able to see long term potential with you. Even though you might think that you’re being boring, she will love having most of the talking time. While she is talking, be calm – and if you need practice in this try my meditation tips.

Another way to get a girl to love you instantly is by complimenting her. Girls love to be complimented because it makes them feel special. When you pick her up, make sure that you compliment her outfit and her hair. If she has talked about her exercises, say that she looks even better than she did before. It is important to remember when giving compliments to always say that they looked beautiful and now they look even better. This can be applied to a wide array of compliments, such as compliments on the outfit, hair, makeup, or the body. If you want some advice on how to compliment a girl, read this article.

A final way to make her love you is by smiling a lot. Girls love it when you smile a lot because it makes them feel comfortable. Even though a lot of guys don’t like to smile, it really helps a girl love you even more than she already does.

In the end, a girl loves it “all the small things”. Do you open the door for her? Do you laugh at all her jokes? Do you always answer her calls and texts? Getting a girl to love you instantly isn’t that hard, but you have to remember that a girl’s mind works differently than a guy’s mind. Girls look at the small picture. This is different than guys, who look at the big picture. Remember to always be courteous and in tune to how she is feeling. A girl will love you instantly if she knows that she can tell you all her problems. Since you now know how to make her love you instantly, you should be able to have a wonderful relationship with your girlfriend. As long as you remember to think about her feelings, the relationship will succeed. Now if you don’t have a girlfriend yet, then learning how to find a girlfriend should be the first logical step for you.

All right, that’s really all for now. Talk soon, and if you are in Singapore or Thailand email me if you want to meet up.

Love,

Jason K.

Jason’s Guide To Buying Property From A Developer (Part 1)

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Following my previous blog post about moving to Southeast Asia and acquiring a piece of real estate (read this if you have missed it), I have decided to BUY a property in Kuala Lumpur instead of renting. I have indeed purchased a condo in the KLCC enclave – courtesy of a listing I found at http://propertyforsale.com.my . I can’t wait to move there.

My friend Richard Lee has asked if it’s advisable to directly purchase property from a developer instead of going into the sub-sale market. I took some time to research and sent him this article I wrote – thought I’ll share it here for the benefit of all.

How to buy property from a developer

There are a lot of people that love brand new houses. After all, brand new houses have a lot of benefits that a used home just can’t provide. If you love custom items, then building a brand new house is for you. You will be able to customize every aspect of the house. And most importantly, you’ll be the first family to live in the house. This means you don’t have to worry about how dirty the people before you were or what happened in the house. In order to buy a new house, you will need to buy it from a developer. Buying a property from a developer isn’t as easy you might think. If you aren’t careful, you can get ripped off by the developer. The following paragraphs will help you learn how to buy a property from a developer.

The first step to buying a property from a developer is finding a reliable developer. Finding a good developer is the most important part of the process. Finding a good developer will make the rest of the process a lot easier. You won’t have to worry about faulty foundations or poorly constructed rooms. One of the best ways to find a reliable developer is to visit past developments that are now complete. Go door to door and ask the owners of the house how satisfied they were with the whole process. This is the process I undertook when I bought my KLCC condo. To make asking questions easier, consider having a survey prepared. This way, you’ll be able to remember all of your questions.

Once you have selected a developer, you will need to select a model. Most developers offer many models to choose from, so make sure that the one you end up choosing is the one that fits your lifestyle the best. At this point, you’ll be able to select any custom features that you would like your house to have. Make sure that you are getting charged a fair price for any add-ons that you choose. A lot of developers offer low base prices but charge a lot for add-ons to make up for the difference. Remember that it’s debatable if home improvements increase house value.

If you have any special requirements – such as the need for a room for meditation – remember to factor that in as well.

After you have selected all of your add-ons, it is time to negotiate. You and your real estate agent will need to look at past houses that the developer has sold in order to get an idea of how much the house should cost you. If the developer hasn’t sold a house in a while, he or she will be more willing to adjust the price. However, if there is only one plot left in the neighborhood, you will most likely have to forfeit your negotiating power.

After you have negotiated the final price and have the offer in writing, the developer will start building your property. The more involved you are in the process, the happier you will be with the end result. Many developers will cut corners if they think that you won’t notice, so constantly checking on the project can help eliminate this from happening.

In the next installment of this blog series on property buying, I will outline some pitfalls that you should avoid. Stay put!